ForeverInLoveWithJus

I'm more introverted than extroverted and sometimes I wonder if being shy is a hindrance.

For example, when meeting new people I see the confident outgoing people taking things in their stride. as with me, I find it hard to talk to people and end up thinking in my head, what will I say next?

Are there any positives to be had from being shy? Are you shy or loud as a fog horn? What do you think of shy people?

PaulTheRing

I'm shy myself... But here I am, I find myself in International Relations. I guess it was a subconscious decision, so I could improve on my "people skills".

- Emperor J.P.

CrAZyBeAuTiFuL4

I'm a little of both. Around friends I'm completely extroverted and loud and crazy, all my friends are. Around people I work with I'm a little more reserved. Around new people...it could really go either way. If it's just me and new people I tend to be more quiet especially when those new people know each other. However, if it's a new person with me and a few of my friends, I'm the opposite. I think it totally depends on the situation. But I don't think being shy is a hinderance. There are sometimes I'd just rather not talk to people and just be by myself and there are times when I'd like to get to know people.

GrgotSlave

I'm a little bit of both too. With family and friends, I can be crazy, loud, funny etc... and then there are times where i'm just quiet and listen to other people. At work, I'm probably one of the most energetic (that's what they all say ) So I guess that's a good thing because my work buddies love working with me. At school, i'm not shy. I'm not afraid to speak up, ask questions, talk etc... But, If I meet new people that my freinds or family introduce me too, i'm really shy. I won't say anything untill they do because I really wont know what to talk about. It's kind of weird but I don't find it a hinderance. I like to get to know what people are about before I truly open myself up and talk to them. That way, I don't make a fool of myself.

ForeverInLoveWithJus

I guess when I was in school, I was the quietest girl ever, just really hanging around with one or two close friends and didnt really mix that well. Now in work, I find myself being distant towards people, I guess because I am shy and dont know what to talk about. I talk to a few people about soccer but thats all I feel comfortable discussing and I guess I bet people hate me.

Britney_03

the confident thing....


confidence is something you earn from yourself. Its not necessarily just THERE. Sometimes u gotta work up to it :-)

PastyHusty

If you don't try, you will never succeed.

ForeverInLoveWithJus

Yes but its not that simple for shy people.

BraveGirl

When I was in high school I was kinda shy when it came to new people but with my friends it was a different thing, now that I am not around friends anymore I have gone back to being just shy, well let's just say I don't talk to new people unless they speak to me first. The only time I really talk to new people I am on forums or a chatroom. I mainly consider everyone here my group of friends...it's sad I know but my only friend I have here at home is my fianc'e, my cousin who I barely talk to as much or hang out with as much because we both have children so that takes up most of our time, but other than that I am a loner.

PastyHusty

Yes, but the point is that you've gotta try it out at some point or you'll always be shy. A good thing takes effort to achieve.