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Originally Posted by Ashleigh text |
It's so easy to point at someone and say "I DON'T LIKE YOU. YOU SUCK!" It's a little more trouble to take those words and wrap them in a 3 paragraph post, but as long as the message of the post is the same as that one little line, it's really just cheap and stupid.
People come in layers, you know. I'm never influenced by what people say about other people, because I want to make my own calls, plus it's the fair thing to do. Besides, what can anyone do to me that I haven't already been through?
In the past it did occur that I let myself get influenced about certain people by a girlfriend of that time. In a later stage I apologized to those people however, and told them I should have used my own head. I end up much more tolerant than most people, because a lot of people don't take the trouble to understand a person in a positive light.
People who give up on you are people that didn't deserve to be important to you. Giving up on someone is a HUGE decision that one shouldn't toy around with. Most people don't even have the proper braincells in operation to even make a decision like that. Alas, it happens. Nothing we can do about it. And if we could, we shouldn't. It's their responsibility. It's like smoking. Once you begin doing that, you'll do it again. Eventually it's gonna bite them in the ass hard and that is a life lesson they need to undergo.
In my life I have dealt with bitterness and resentment in two different ways. My first bright idea was the simple virtue of revenge. Revenge on the person who set me up, who made me believe we were a happy in love internet [slash] long distance couple when it wasn't real. One day her best friend came to me and said that Everybody's Fool told her she was afraid of me. She knew I had her by the balls. I could break her in one second if I wanted to. All her lies revealed over the entire message board and beyond, for everyone to see. Her greatest fear. But I never did. However she finally left me alone after that.
So you'd think I'd feel much better, right? Nope. It doesn't matter HOW many times you win a fight with someone, the true battle is with yourself. And that cannot be won by fighting. It can only be won, by loving. Loving yourself, loving everybody else, even loving the actions of the people who wronged you.
I don't have regrets for anything I've done in the past. But I wouldn't do it again like that. This because I am the new improved model of my former self. lol. And I have those people to thank for making it possible for me to reinvent myself. I used their mistakes as well as my own as building blocks.
There was nothing in the world I hated more than that girl. And now, she's a part of me. And if I would have the oppertunity I would thank her for it, and I would apologize for the hurt I put her through. Even though she deserved every bit of it, and I do hope she learned something from it. Not just that you don't mess with the Stinger
, but that there are much more civilized ways of resolving issues as long as you take the trouble to understand eachother, instead of pointing fingers and condemning to hell and all that shit.
There is one major difference between you and me though. Which is gender. For the most part, girls tend to have a knack for soul disection. They look at themselves, at others, how we dress, walk and talk, are we good people, are we bad people, what kind of things are bothersome, what's the status of our relationship, what's not good about it, what is he thinking, what does he think that she is thinking, etc.
All that stuff, which I refer to as the religion "Negatism"... RIGHT out the window. GONE. No more. Bye bye. Learn to be at peace with yourself. And I think that will be a lot harder to pull of for a girl than for a guy. But it's not impossible. People often worry about negative things. The way I see it, that's a very pointless, and much too popular sport. The negative will always be there. What you need to focus yourself on if you want to be happy, is the positive side of things. Obvious, but there is something to that. Negative = backwards. Backwards in time a.k.a. THE PAST.
Something negative happens, BAM one second and it's in the past. The present holds the time to take action so that in the future the negative doesn't exist. The present is where you replace the negative with a positive like the future replaces the past. If you teach yourself to adjust your ways of thinking to that, and let your actions follow if necessary, then you have the potential of becoming a hell of a lot happier in life.
Furthermore, shit that goes on in far-away-land you should really just leave in far-away-land. If a person makes a decision that you don't like, if you respect it and not take the burden of that decision on your own shoulders, you'll be more at ease. If YOU would face that decision, you would do it differently, and THAT's what you need to remember. The rest is excessive baggage you can forget.
When it later turns out that the decision that person made, was a good decision, all you need to do then is open your ears, listen and learn the reasons why.
You have to be completely convinced that you can do this. And then the more practice you get, the smaller the temptation is to revert back.
There will always be people who don't like you. But as long as they don't make themselves heard, they don't matter. If they come to you with something, all you need to do is open your mind and listen to what they have to say. In case you don't agree, tell the person so and mention the reasons why. Always keep the conversation civilized. The less drama, the more joy.
There. That should get you on your way.
And of course, you know where to find me.
EDIT: Some clarifications added.
and LMAO@the un-pun-ness.
